The other day when speaking about a very exciting opportunity I had been offered, the woman who I was speaking to seemed a little taken back by how calmly I spoke about it. It was true, that I rarely raised my voice when speaking about it, and although I was both honored and enthusiastic about being offered the opportunity, I reflected a stoicism unusual of my character.
I knew I could be excited, and in some ways, the woman pointed out I should. That said, I did not want to be.
As much as I generally dislike stoicism, there are times to apply its tenets, and there is something extremely valuable about distancing from the moment and allowing your head to take on a bird’s-eye view of the situation. Understanding when to take a moment to step back from the world and truly observe a hectic situation is invaluable.
Becoming too attached to the present moment in a given job or project can constrain you from seeing a larger picture. Conversely, getting too attached to the larger picture, or the intensity and anxiety of the stakes, may intimidate you into losing your way. Gravitating towards the healthiest, and most productive narratives your mind can create your circumstances greatly helps in conquering the fear of performance. Sometimes that means departing from the emotional thrill and going with the constructive chill.
While apathy is something I resent in all of its forms, it should not be mistaken for emotional tranquility and calmness in the face of challenge. While the above qualities are difficult to emulate, they are invaluable when maintained.
Until next time,